Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Initialize This

I'm starting to wonder if "initiating" is taking a leading role or not.

Far be it from me to want to lead a relationship, but sometimes it seems that being the initiator isn't usurping the man's leadership role or stepping out of place as the submitter.

I don't know. In a way, I probably initiated the relationship with my current boyfriend by inviting him over for pie at 9:00 at night after he got back into town after a long week of travel...

HE kissed ME first, and he pursued me for several months...was I responding or initiating?

And even if I did maintain my role as responder, are there examples of a woman initiating without usurping or manipulating? Instead, a respectful surrender and trusting vulnerability when she lets him know how she feels...

2 comments:

Adam T. said...

Yeah, I think there's room for distinguishing between 'initiation', 'responsiveness', 'leadership', etc., in a relationship.

Rachael said...

I wonder if stuff with regard to what women should/should not do sometimes gets overspiritualized (& wrongly so) in Christian communities...

No, I'm not all feminist-y and may to some appear to be more doormat-y if they had to choose one or the other (though I can be opinionated and probably am less doormaty than I might be if I were 10 years younger)

Perhaps Christian communities should at times be more open and be careful and refrain from classifying stuff (in their attitude, speech, thoughts) as black and white...